Monday, April 23, 2012

Its Brunch


What makes a city great? Is it the food, the attractions on offer, the weather, or the agglomeration of different cultures or is it something more abstract? As may have been clear by now, I enjoy moving around, going to small and big cities in my quest to see more and more of the world. I have lived in Atlanta for about 5 years now but have always found something missing. The city has great food, attractions, many different cultures, but somehow fails to ‘Wow’ me! On a trip this past weekend, I might have finally cracked what it is that’s amiss.
           
One of the first American Shows I watched outside of cartoons was Full House. For those who aren’t aware, the Olsen twins played the role of Michelle as an adorable 4 year old child in a loving family. The family lived in San Francisco. After about 10-15 years since I last watched that show, I had my first opportunity to visit the hilly city!
            
When you think of California, you think great weather, great food, and beautiful people among other things. Like NYC is its own entity so is California; Having not been to many cities besides LA which I thought was okay, I wondered if Californians were pretentious and had an air about themselves, well just because they were from California. San Francisco proved to me why the Bay area is such a desired area to be in.
            
A lot of my friends from college moved to San Francisco after graduation to pursue careers in the gigantic tech industry there. I was staying with a friend from Bombay, Tarush, who did his Bachelors from Carnegie Mellon. A shared interest for electronic music was bringing us together for this weekend as a new and upcoming sensation in the house scene, Alesso, was playing at one of the top venues in San Francisco, Ruby Skye. Ruby Skye is known to host some of the biggest names in EDM throughout the year. But just like my trip to Lebanon for TATW 400 (Above and Beyond’s Radio Show, you know by now), I experienced so much more during the course of my trip there; the music was just the cherry on top.
            
I got to SF around midnight on Thursday and proceeded to my friend’s apartment on Van Ness Street. He lived in a very spacious modern apartment geared to be a bachelor pad: Minimal furniture, comfy sofa and bed and a great sound system. We just spent the night catching up, planning for the day ahead. Planning for 4.20
          
Friday afternoon around noon we left the apartment to be welcomed by an unusually sunny and warm day by San Francisco standards. I think I brought the sunshine with me. First stop was Market Street and the most iconic building of SF, The Ferry Building. The wide complex houses many gourmet restaurants and stores selling food likes cured pork and organic honeys to chowder and oysters. To add to the goodness on offer, was a deck overlooking the SF bay flocked by seagulls. This was the perfect place to grab the first bite: An assortment of cured pork meats drizzled with a light vinaigrette dressing between a hearty bread. What a start.



            
After walking around a bit, I met up with another friend and I got to experience the hilly nature of SF. As we drove up Market Street, the roads went up and down in a very distinct way I haven’t come across anywhere before. We went to Hayes valley; a quiet neighborhood lined with boutique stores and artisanal cafes. My friend lived right above one in an old quaint building, in a small studio apartment with bay windows opening up to the trees beyond. It was quite the setting.



            
We proceeded to a beer garden around the corner which was packed 10 minutes after it opened at 3. We chatted about life, soaked in the beautiful weather and people watched. Tarush joined us soon after and we headed to another bigger beer garden called Zeitgeist. This place was even more bustling and we took up residence on an already crowded outdoor table with seemingly unassuming folks. What I hadn’t realized yet was what a close knit tech community SF is.  More often than not you can ask someone what they do, and the response would be as an engineer in a tech company. (Apple, Google, Facebook, Twitter, and many many not as well-known but equally important companies). The guy at our table worked for Google.



            
After another drink at a nearby Vietnamese restaurant we headed back to be joined by Evan in a few hours. He was flying standby and somehow made it out of Atlanta. The fearsome threesome was united, things were about to get real. We had already missed any real opportunities to eat dinner having meandered all day long, so we just proceeded to the clubs. First we went to a club called Temple, had a great setting but the music wasn’t great so we left soon thereafter. Vessel, the club we went to next, was a great time. The DJ knew how to get the crowd bouncing and 2 hours later, we walked out, shirts wet, hearts content. Some funny incidents on the way home included me embracing a Bank of America ATM because, “I love my bank” and us catching a live performance of a man drumming on empty cans, a light pole and buckets. It was time to call it a night..

            
Think of a time when you went outdoors, and the sun shone brightly and the gentlest of breezes tickled your skin; Day 2 was just that, idyllic. Believe it or not, one of the more defining things about SF is its brunch culture. Yes Brunch.  One wouldn’t think much of it besides that comfort Sunday afternoon meal which isn’t really breakfast but isn’t really lunch, not because of the hour its eaten at but because of the food in play. SF is where brunch was redefined. Irrespective of how much people drank the night before, on the weekend at 11 am, they all queue up at one of many brunch places, particularly, Lime. Located in Castro place, SF’s very obviously gay and vibrant area, Lime was like a day club. Hip tunes, a hipper crowd, brunch essentials like eggs Benedict and unlimited mimosas. I must say it was quite the experience. ‘It’s brunch’ was soon to become the tagline of the trip.

            
Once we got our pretentious fill for the day, we proceeded to do something more impromptu and one of my favorite things when discovering a city; walk about with no real agenda. Tarush pointed to the Twin Peaks (SF’s highest point) far in the distance and sometime between finishing brunch and seeing some stark naked men roaming in this district, we were on our way up the mountain. It was quite a trek, but what a great decision it was. I had already been noticing the different housing options around town from the modern apartment to the old studio, but this hike up the mountain provided a glimpse into what were to become my favorite living haunts in the city; Houses, big and small dotted the hill, all unique in their style, but similar in their use of windows that gave unparalleled views of the city below and the ocean in the far background. This was the kind of house Michelle lived in. This was the SF I had seen on TV.
            
The hike all the way to the top kept getting better and we were more and more convinced of how we needed to have a place here. After spending about 30 minutes at the top looking far down at where we started from, Evan and I (residents of Atlanta for 5 years, and visitors to many many cities in the world) realized why Atlanta didn’t attract us as much even after 5 years. To quote him he said, “It’s all about the experience here.” A seemingly simple statement clicked right away and it was true, Atlanta was missing the community vibe, collective activities that people did together. Tarush had already told me about many interesting festivals like the Love Parade wherein music trucks start in different parts of the city, with people dancing around them, finally meeting at the center. There was so much that worked for SF; whether being a port city, epicenter of tech firms, the resident’s love for music or just the simple fact that it was a walking city! In my experience any great city must be a walking city, and unfortunately Atlanta is too spread out to be one.

            
After contemplating life’s bigger questions, we headed home to get changed to answer a simpler much more pertinent question; what’s for dinner? In a place that was bustling with so many cultures, food had to be great and we needed to eat something special. Located in the Marina bay area, Fisherman’s wharf is SF’s answer to Seattle’s pike place market minus the local produce plus hundreds of restaurants serving up the catch of the day. It was hard enough picking one, but the anticipation for the food was even more tantalizing. I ordered the seafood chowder (Had that in Seattle too, direct comparison) and the bruschetta with Dungeness crab. Others had the mussels, a trio of fish fillets in a light sauce, and a seafood platter that included jumbo shrimps and scallops. The sauces and preparations were Italian…
            
There was to be yet another awe invoking moment before Alesso’s set itself. We headed to the Mariott Marquis’ bar called, The View. Located on the top floor, as I exited the elevator and looked around, I genuinely didn’t know what to say. Aptly called the view, there was a 360 view of the city from this vantage point in the sky. Dim lighting and low lying furniture added to the pure stark beauty that was, this view!
            
Unfortunately it was too crowded and we didn’t get to have a drink there but we proceeded to an Irish bar before heading to the headline event of the night – Alesso. I will not talk about that in this post since I could go on writing pages describing what that set delivered. One thing that is becoming clearer to me is that Electronic music is the truth and there is no escaping it. I don’t know of many other events where masses of humanity sway with joy the way they do at such gigs. If I were to pick a song to go with this post, to describe the feeling within, I would choose this.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gNYL7-Tu6fQ ..
               
2 days was definitely not enough here. What a complete weekend it was. I got to catch up with some close friends, got a taste of local flavors, saw first hand things SF prides itself on, was taken on a musical journey and most importantly, I got to experience brunch! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d2uE4P3P5sI

Friday, April 13, 2012

The end is near..

I wrote this is as an editorial for the newspaper.....


May 5th promises to be a monumental day in my life. It is the day I will walk alongside my peers, a huge crowd in attendance, the setting - overwhelming, the occasion - Convocation Spring 2012; the culmination of a journey that started about 5 years ago for a young boy from New Delhi. I will receive my Bachelors of Science in Mechanical Engineering from one of the most reputed and coveted schools in the world. Oh how I can’t wait.

One’s last editorial before graduation is meant to be a swansong; an ode about the ups and downs, the good times and the not so good times, the transformation from boy to man on the way to becoming a hell of an engineer.

Reflecting back, It has been a mind boggling ride, with my life’s hardest and most cherished moments having occurred at this institution. School (Primary through high school) had been full of memories, almost a stroll through the park, made possible by the countless friends I made and my parents who supported me through everything.
I was going about life worrying little about the next day, let alone about college. Everything happened quickly from there; I took the SAT’s because my friend asked me to. I got a good score, I convinced my mom, applied to some colleges, asked around a little bit and picked Tech, and soon was on a flight to the US; my very first visit.

I was clear about two things. One, I was going to make the most of my opportunity, get involved on campus and second, I was going to live life to the fullest. Soon, I found myself in a fraternity, on the board of India Club, taking leadership roles in AIESEC, working an on campus job and soon was also on my way to my first internship. Though this might sound typical of a college student, it meant a great deal to me as a foreign student for I was constantly having to adjust to the ways of the US, dealing with managing my emotions far away from home and all the while handling the difficult engineering curriculum. American culture is easy to assimilate into but is significantly different than any other. However, being an 18 hour flight away from home didn’t bother me as I was constantly engaged.

My life changed the summer of 2008. In a chance meeting with a stranger on a gorgeous sunny day on the rolling greens at the University of Nottingham in the East Midlands of the UK, I fell in love. What ensued was a cross cultural, cross country romantic story like no other. We were from different worlds, we were not meant to meet, but we did. She was to become the pillar, inspiration, motivation and support for the rest of my college life.

So much happened whilst at Tech. I got my first job, my first car, my first credit card! I worked hard, I enjoyed the companionship of my peers, I grew as a human being, I found mentors, I found brothers, I picked up skills, my brain sharpened, I studied abroad, I got a 4.0, I was part of a winning movie for CMF, I did a co-op, I travelled the world extensively, I had heartbreak. I picked up a minor, I met inspirational people, I made lifelong friends, I made the Dean’s list, I flirted, I found my love again, I became an Editor, I started to blog, I won the ME senior design competition, I got a full-time job with a consulting firm, I did undergraduate research, I got published, and then I also lost a friend.

I could spend days recounting stories and memories of these apparently unrelated events but there is an underlying thing that ties all of them together: I was never afraid to take on a challenge, whether it was academic, social or extracurricular. I constantly strived for more and more, and refused to settle for anything less than the best. I always believed anything was possible. As I mentioned before, besides my lady love, my friends were instrumental in keeping me upbeat, inspired and most importantly, dreaming big.

Personal change was inevitable. When I look back at the innocent boy from India that I once was, I feel overwhelmed at the thought of how one decision to pursue higher education in the US, far from home, brought about such telling and meaningful growth in me. Tech gave me everything; cherished bonds, innumerable memories, academic excellence, incredible values, grit, determination and most importantly, the will to succeed under the toughest of circumstances.
If I were to summarize in one line, into a sort of advice for younger readers, I would say, embrace Tech and everything that goes with college life. College years are the most formative, most memorable years of one’s life, and one should never have any regrets.

May 5th may be the end of my association with college in the traditional sense, but I will continue to be associated with my Alma matter that gave me such a wonderful launching pad. One of my dreams is to have the first President’s Scholarship by an Indian for international students such as myself. And now I will bid adieu with these fitting words. “If you can imagine it, you can achieve it; if you can dream it, you can become it.” – William Arthur Ward

Sunday, April 8, 2012

The Power of Love

Tonight, the tears aren't stopping... Ironically, it's been a great night with friends. As I lay down in my bed, my safe haven, my emotions poured out; the heart bled..

I have put on a very calming radio station in the background and I want to say something, just anything..

Life has been very kind to me, things have always worked out. But it hasn't been without it's share of challenges...

I choose to be happy, ever smiling, because life is beautiful..

We are all born into loving families. Grow up with friends around us, and if we're lucky, have significant others. It is human nature to always find happiness elsewhere: a thing, a place or a person. The unfortunate reality is that at the end of day, we are all our sole guardians...

Ever since I can remember, love has been my preferred weapon to fight any situation. In fighting amongst family or friends, I always reciprocated with a true gesture of the heart...

It takes real courage to stake one's heart and lay it out in the open. Many a person is too afraid of being hurt, of not getting their love returned; What a pity, since the most human growth happens when experiencing the pain..

Love conquers all; I am a firm practitioner and believer of the philosophy. Equipped with such an all encompassing tool, I feel invincible, stronger than the strongest of men. Nothing can touch me, for I have gambled with the best hand..

Above and Beyond are my favorite dance musicians. I connect with their songs on an all together different level. Group Therapy as they like to call their concerts, are truly a liberating experience. Lyrics to a song go.." Don't forget about a thing called Love.." . The crowds sway, the sounds reach the skies, the eyes close... It's Group Therapy! :D

I feel privileged being the recipient of the love of so many! I would not trade it for anything else..

They always said life was full of challenges, throwing surprises out of nowhere. It's been quite a challenge, quite a ride, but I've loved every moment of it. Happiness isn't measured in material wealth but rather in the richness of human interaction..

I'm not sure what prompted this today.. Maybe it's whats happened recently. Maybe it's the fact that I've had to keep a strong front, smiling to keep the spirits of friends high. Whatever it is, I feel thankful for those in my life. You know who you are..

A perfect end maybe.. "Love isn't there to make us happy. I believe it exists to show us how much we can endure." - Herman Hesse

Call, email, or text someone you love, telling them you cherish them.

Goodnight

Monday, April 2, 2012

When you lose somebody...

March 11th would have been just another Sunday; lazing around the house with my roommates, preparing for the week ahead, performing household chores; But one phone call turned my world upside down, making Sunday, March 11, the most unforgettable Sunday of my life.

The last few weeks have been a blur. The passing away of our beloved friend was met with sheer disbelief. Within a matter of 30 minutes of finding out the news, about 20 near and dear ones were gathered at my place. The silence was deafening. What an irony that the very same house that had been the place of joy and celebration the day before for a 'Holi' celebration became a place of mourning less than 24 hours later...

Everything after that was an emotional roller-coaster. Calls were made, received from all over the world; shock was the underlying emotion. Everyone took each other under their wings, tears, many tears were shed...

We go through life thinking we know how to react to and tackle the hardest of situations. It's one thing knowing what to do and another when actually faced with one. This was new to almost all of us, we didn't know what to do; whether to piece the story together or to cry or to blame someone or to be there for each other.

I don't think I cried properly till the day of the funeral. On entering the funeral home, I saw a slideshow of images, of Akshay smiling, laughing and being himself. Not being one for crying in public, even though I have always embraced tears, something gave way, and I bled my soul for a person who had made a lasting impression on me.

Akshay Goil, what happened man? What about the countless plans we had together?

I made the decision to see him after much internal debate. Did I want to see him in his final state and have that stick with me or keep that cheerful face in my head...

I walked up to him, his face serene, his body still; How I wish you woke up then and said something...

During that week which seemed to last a lifetime, we had to be there for the family. What unfortunate circumstances we met under, but it seems like we all found a new family in them...

Tears are wonderful. Pain is beautiful. My favorite song across genres and languages has lyrics that go something like this.. "Dil hai toh dard bhi hoga, dard hai toh dil bhi hoga." (If there is a heart there must be hurt, and if there is hurt there must be a heart). It's an emotion that lays a man bare, weak, and vulnerable. We were all, all those things..

Life has seemingly come back to normal, but I find myself walking around on campus, seeing him everywhere I was used to seeing him. Time is a healer they say, and I am sure it is but today after about 3 weeks, I just feel like saying, I really miss you Akshay Goil...


I had never experienced death up-close before. Had never thought of how I'd react to it or what I would feel. I might not know it yet, but an incident like this changes ones perspective on many things. The emotions are still raw and the memories fresh. A small part of me still thinks he will show up at my doorstep someday soon. I guess, all these feelings are part of the process.

How long should one grieve? Is it wrong to move on? To smile and proceed with life? There was an emptiness within, I wanted to unload my emotions... Taking a few moments to let the thoughts flow uninhibited worked wonders. To face whatever emotion surfaces at the thought of what happened is crucial to arrive at the acceptance..

Tomorrow is another day. Today is about to be history. Must not dwell in the past, yet must always carry Akshay's memory into the future!